Less Than Faithful...

I’ve often talked about Love; its Magnitude, its Power, its very Existence. Perhaps I haven’t been very ‘practical’ in my outlook, maybe I haven’t even been exactly factual, but then it’s simply because of my obstinate Faith in humankind :)

However, one facet of Human Nature that deals with the actual part of Love and intrigues me no end is Infidelity.

I watched ‘Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna’ sometime ago, and I was surprised to find that I liked the movie. Simply because the movie made me think. Granted, it could’ve been made in a much better way, but the train of thought it set into motion is quite interesting.

I’ve always disapproved of infidelity… (maybe that has something to do with me being a Sagittarian :) but now I am not sure if it’s always as simple as that. When are things black and white anyway? I don’t say there can be a time when infidelity can be totally justified. But perhaps there can be a time when it is excused, made an allowance for. With little help from good old poetic license, I differentiated Infidelity from Unfaithfulness.

By my definition, Infidelity is deliberate, unfaithfulness is accidental. The former perhaps stems out from shortcomings of a relationship which are only unconsciously acknowledged, and manifest themselves in form of infidelity. Unfaithfulness, though is more of a reaction, an impulse, not intended consciously or unconsciously.

For instance, when Chandler shares what he does with Kathy, Joey’s girl, can that really be judged simply as betrayal on Chandler’s part or adulterous on Kathy’s part? I think not. It might have been a breach of Faith, but it was not a disrespect of love, or friendship.

Deliberate breach of faith or even exploitation of love is definitely not acceptable. But when you fall in love with someone you shouldn’t, is that immoral? When you get carried away momentarily, is that criminal?

Of course this is a very delicate, and more importantly a case specific issue. And yes, Ideally speaking, Love deserves neither unfaithfulness nor infidelity. But in case such a thing does happen, isn’t forgiveness and making an allowance also a part of True Love? Doesn’t everyone deserve a second chance?

Perhaps there are no definite answers to these questions. Or perhaps all of us have answers of our own, within ourselves.

There are many things that can go wrong in a relationship. But it takes two people to make a relationship work. To make it, or break it. And if they want it to work, it will. Come hell or high water.

Maybe what I’m saying doesn’t always stand true. But I want to believe it does, and I will… because… you know, at the end of the day… Love is Enough really... and I’m stubborn!! :)